You write for many many of us & perhaps this is a good case fora general statement and say For all of us women of a certain generation. My son knows for sure that the womna he will marry will keep her maiden name and maybe his offspring might not even take on a second name. This space sometimes feels like an echo chamber but this is in a good sense - we need to know we are not alone in many ways. Sending you a big hug Farah!
Such sweet kids :) it is such a surprise for me to learn this part of India!
The name is indeed something I've also questioned, specifically when I was registering for marriage. In Germany it's often that the couple chooses a family name together, in the old times it's the man's usually but nowadays it could be any. For my Chinese culture, the women doesn't change their name but their kids take on the father's family name by default. So in the end, I didn't change my name, and after a long discussion, we decided on my husband's German surname for kids just for their ease because we live here. The thing is, I question too, my name comes too from my paternal side since time memorial, so it's not like I am fighting for a "mother's name".
It's great that you know your worth and I hope that it will change for the better soon for you and all women!
Ms Farah Naaz! Humko naaz hai aap par. Aap se. 💜
Thank you for this powerful, compassionate essay
Natasha Badhwar mujhe bhi asp se . Shukriya
Farah Naaz, I can’t tell you how much I love your name, and now the story behind it. Power. Pride toh banta hai ❤️❤️
Raju tai thankyou.
What a powerful post @Farah! Once you claim your name, you claim your identity!
Thankyou . True once we claim our name ,we claim our identity.
You write for many many of us & perhaps this is a good case fora general statement and say For all of us women of a certain generation. My son knows for sure that the womna he will marry will keep her maiden name and maybe his offspring might not even take on a second name. This space sometimes feels like an echo chamber but this is in a good sense - we need to know we are not alone in many ways. Sending you a big hug Farah!
We need to know we are not alone. This.
Such sweet kids :) it is such a surprise for me to learn this part of India!
The name is indeed something I've also questioned, specifically when I was registering for marriage. In Germany it's often that the couple chooses a family name together, in the old times it's the man's usually but nowadays it could be any. For my Chinese culture, the women doesn't change their name but their kids take on the father's family name by default. So in the end, I didn't change my name, and after a long discussion, we decided on my husband's German surname for kids just for their ease because we live here. The thing is, I question too, my name comes too from my paternal side since time memorial, so it's not like I am fighting for a "mother's name".
It's great that you know your worth and I hope that it will change for the better soon for you and all women!
The kids are the hope. Thankyou for letting me know about Germany. I do hope in near future there will be no need for this essay .
thanks for nurturing a revolution one whitener at a time :) so so so much proud of you Farah <3
Thankyou Parvathy. He he revolution one whitener at time. To many more.
This made me tear up Farah. Powerful, defiant, healing. Thank you.
Love, love, love. Create conventions not follow them. ❤️
Love ❤️
Well done Farah Naaz!
Thank you for writing this for all of us, Farah 💛
Ms Farah Naaz, you da best! The role model we all need 🤩
What a fantastic exercise - to find out the names of our great grandmothers. Look forward to reading about it someday.
Yes . Eventually I hope to find the names. That will be some story